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What my dad taught me about husbands
Many are hiding in plain sight
Thank God for Macy’s sales.
My dad was not a shopper. Between work, being a husband and father, there wasn’t much space left to be concerned with fashion. My mom’s position at a law firm offered its own discount to employees. I have fond memories of her coming home with Macy bags of clothes for them both, heavily discounted.
Her husband was a simple man. Highly intelligent and respectable. Loved to cook, read and could barbecue his lanky 6'4" frame off.
Whenever my parents went on vacations, date night, or to functions with married friends, he donned the clothes his wife picked out for him.
I remember my mom saying how when they began dating, he wasn’t affectionate at all. Mainly because his mother wasn’t affectionate with him. She showed him how to be affectionate by being affectionate. He learned then reciprocated.
That is one example of a husband.
Men who have husband qualities aren’t perfect. Nor are they the most fashionable, popular, or swagged out.
But they do have character, integrity. They operate with a level of consistency in their everyday lives. And most importantly, they see their wives as human. Not domesticated slaves created for the sole purpose of servitude.
Husband material is in the simple, boring things most women overlook.
And unfortunately will miss out.
