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Top 5 Reasons To Give Abstinence A Try
“I’ve been abstinent seven years.”
My day care provider revealed to me during one of our casual chit chats.
Seven years? I thought. How is that even possible?
At the time I had been in a relationship for ten years strong. So the thought of abstinence seemed so foreign and impossible to me.
How could someone go so long without intimacy? What do you do in the meantime? Just…how?
Fast forward to a divorce several years later, and oh how I know of abstinence all too well now. I’m not quite sure how it started. Or how my sex life ended. But it did. Came to a screeching halt with little effort to rev it up again.
My abstinence so far has been quite the journey. I can’t say it’s been what I expected. I never expected to be here. Now that I am some profound truths have surfaced.
Here’s some things I’ve learned about abstinence:
#1 It is not a waste
Unless you make it.
Our lives consist of varying seasons. It is up to us to recognize the season we’re in, and go through it in the most productive way.
The desire to have sex is natural. What holds us back are damaging conditions under which we have sex (casual, situationships, etc), that…
