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Real Spill: The Real Reason I Filed Child Support
Since the day we met, my ex and I were inseparable. Two peas in the pod. The male and female versions of each other. And boy were we in love.
The problem with the beginning, is that you don’t see the middle or end.
Our end, after two children and a decade and a half later, landed a debit card in my hand. A predetermined amount credited weekly via direct deposit.
This was my child support.
Enter divorce court following two years separated; the judge asked me about child support. I informed him we had our own agreement.
“In the event he stops doing what he’s supposed to, come see me,” said the judge.
“Yes sir.”
3 Years Later…
Per a family member I was advised to file and “secure my money”. All due to him taking new vows. Why? I thought. Why mess with what he’s been voluntarily doing? If he cuts it off, he cuts it off. Which he probably won’t do.
Or at least I thought.
A year into his marriage, he pulled the plug. No warning. No conversation. Nothing.
No thought of financially what it could do to me. Internally there were feelings of betrayal, burning anger, and shock from him giving me and his son’s…
