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Real Spill: Stop trying to be Rated E
For Everyone
Something about the end of this year that has me in a nostalgic mood. Maybe its due to the self work that requires self reflection. Self reflection requires a looking back on the past and people in it. Whatever the case, in my quest for more self confidence I’ve discovered my uniqueness as an individual isn’t for everybody.
This can seem obvious to the outsider understandably. But internally we all have a want or need to be accepted somewhere.
For me it began in childhood. I didn’t have anyone to explain to me that I was different from the other kids on my street and in school. Some had names for me; nerd, tomboy, etc. While those are not necessarily bad words, they can pose negative affects on the psyche.
Being considered a nerd wasn’t cool, so I tried to act and speak like the kids who were cool. Adopting their defiant attitudes of speaking back to teachers, using profanity, showing up late for class you name it.
Boys didn’t like athletic girls who could play sports back then, so I’d half act like I couldn’t play similar to other girls, accept they weren't acting. They really couldn’t play.
Fast forward to today, I’ve grown immensely in my own walk of self esteem and self confidence. I understand who I am and who I’m not.
And who I am isn’t for everyone. And everyone isn’t for me. There’s no right or wrong. We just are.
No need to switch up to be accepted or liked. Some people aren’t for you.
And that is okay.
