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Real Spill: My Truth As A Boy Mom
When reality struck I’d be a single mother, I vowed to not be that single mother. The one who designated her son as “man of the house”. Or the single mother that raises the hell out her daughter but enables her son.
I don’t have a daughter, so no worries there. My two sons were 12 and 6 when their dad and I split. From there a decision was made.
The you can’t raise a boy to be a man rhetoric has been incessant for years. Raising a boy to be a man is much deeper than one thinks. An idea that’s highly subjective and filled with opinions from men who need fathering themselves.
The goal was and is to raise great human beings.
Who do I want them to be? How do I want them to be? Kids don’t have the answers to those questions. As parents our job is to have a direction for them so to speak, then yield them accordingly. And continue moving forward from there.
I want my boys to people of great character and integrity. To instill discipline, work ethic, a spiritual foundation, accountability in them to the point they know nothing else.
The tools needed to lead oneself.
If you can lead yourself you can lead a household. If you can lead a household you can lead a company, or nation.
I’m raising great human beings. I’m raising my boys to lead themselves. This is all possible and will be a reality from a decision one mom made.
Believe that!
