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Real Spill: ‘Happily Married’ Is The Goal
I’m seeing a lot on the internet. Especially in regards to black women and marriage. The statistics are hardly ever in our favor. This doesn’t leave much room for black women to think or feel positively about marriage. And the likelihood it can happen for us.
No matter what anyone says; podcasters, influencers, you know with the whole, if you’re a single mom or single after a certain age your chances of marriage decline type spill, I feel marriage is just as much a reality for me as anyone. The caveat is, I want a happy marriage.
Thats right I said it. Happy marriage. I don’t just desire to be married. I want to be happily married. Not fake social media, “I’ll show my highlight reel” marriage. But a real, healthy, happy marriage.
I wrote about an older gentleman who revealed he was unhappily married. He said it so fast; without thinking and to a stranger at that.
Although I’m pretty sure the marriage didn’t start out unhappy, it has grown to be.
His statement reopened my eyes and mind on marriage. It served as a reminder that not every marriage is happy. Being married isn’t a neverending state of bliss. Marriage, a happy marriage, takes work long term.
The goal is to not just be married. Too easy. Too common.
The goal is to be and stay happily married for the long haul, or not married at all.
