It’s Time To Redefine The Good Guy

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If I had a dime for every time someone proclaimed, “He’s a good man,” well you know the rest.

I thought I knew what a good man was. What he looked like. What he did or didn’t do. In recent years my views have changed. No longer do I feel that a good man is subject to specific traits. Some, yes for sure. But I don’t think there is a set list.

A good man is not necessarily one who doesn’t smoke, drink, or curse. Nor is a man good because he takes care of his kids.

With the following examples, I’m here to dispel the myth.

Read on.

Case 1

My mom met a man online. From the onslaught he told her he was a millionaire. After a couple months of phone conversations, all she could talk about was how she was relocating to his town, they would marry, and move into a million dollar home.

Fast forward four years; still no wedding, relocation, or million dollar home. But — he would treat her out to eat, pay for groceries, and attend church with her while staying at her home.

During one of his extensive visits, I accepted a dinner invitation on a whim. Didn’t have much to say to him really. In my mind he was a manipulating liar. “Well you haven’t had much to say to him,” my mom said while he excused himself to the…