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Is saving yourself for marriage a good idea?
Those doing it seem think so
My oldest son and I have some deep conversations. The kind his peers wish they could have with their parents. Topics that frequently pop up are dating, sex, and relationships. He’s never had a girlfriend and plans to save himself for marriage.
“What if she’s not a virgin?”he asked.
The question left me speechless, lightly tapping my foot on the floor, searching for a response.
“Well, as you age the likelihood of meeting virgins saving themselves for marriage decreases,” I replied. “But don’t let that discourage you son. It’s okay if she’s a bit more experienced.”
Without a reply, he looked away and stared off. I could tell the thought of not meeting his match was an issue.
After our talk, I recalled seeing a video of a young man who was twenty-eight and a virgin. The former Division I football player turned pro as a chemist, sited he was saving himself “for Christ”. He wanted to do it God’s way despite the many temptations in college and living in major cities with a lucrative career.
Without revealing excessive details in his videos, one could ascertain the women he encountered weren’t on par with his standards. Not unusual for someone defeating the flesh. The longer…
