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Be desperate!
The most misused emotion to help win in life
Everyone has a time in their life when they become extremely intentional about a particular goal or endeavor. What drives it — becomes the catalyst to propel ourselves into a mental and physical space where we won’t stop until we’ve reached the goal.
The birth of my second son, was the wake up call to get up and strategize an out from my current department at my job. It had been 3 long hard years. The raises were lame, we didn't accumulate any PTO, and our health benefits weren’t up to par with fellow union members.
During my 12 week leave time, I’d made the decision to transfer out to another department with better pay, benefits, and less physical work.
The only issue was I lacked the proper license (CDL) to apply and that department didn’t train for it.
This is where desperation kicked in. I wanted out so badly I decided to study and take the test myself for the license. I got my hands on the manual for the test and spent every free moment on the clock reading and answering questions at the end of each section.
Once home in the evening, I searched for free online practice tests and took them repeatedly until I knew the information backwards and forwards. After passing the exam to obtain my permit, I spent every Sunday training with a good friend for the test. He’d had the license I desired and remembered everything I needed to know for the pre trip, air brake, and road sections of the test. After failing the air brakes part twice, the third time proved the charm. I’d passed and obtained my CDL Class B!
In the coming weeks I’d frequently check my company’s website for updates on any training position openings. Eventually, one for ten training slots had opened. The next day my bid was submitted, and two months later after being interviewed, I’d been offered a position and began training.
Desperation for the right things wins every time.
Too often we’re desperate for the wrong things; love, attention, validation, relationships, marriage, etc. All contingent on someone else and how they feel about us. This takes us out the drivers seat rendering us powerless over what we claim to want the most. Our actions become forceful, overbearing, aggressive, and disengenuous. All unattractive traits that will not yield positive results long term.
In the end…
Desperation is a powerful tool when used genuinely for what we desire the most. Good health and relationships, a better career or business, all these things and much more are achievable when we decide to starve anything in the way of obtaining it.
Be desperate!
